ok so i didnt use a torque wrench, so dont know how tight exactly but what i felt wasnt too tight but of course with a good amount of pressure. here is a pick. its the left nut and ball joint thats leaking as you can see with the fluid on the nut(when the pump goes to prime it squirts out here at high pressure). it looks like its not seated proper coz if you zoom in you can see it is snug at the rear of the ball but at the front it has a like a 2mm gap.
Anyway, I know have the car in a garage as it was due to go in tomorrow 9:30 to get my new engine and trany mounts fitted so not a big deal as the tow truck was free with my insurance just sucks this has happened,as the first time i changed the cam follower i had no such issues...?
Any way, here is my follower now at 79000 last changed at 45000. Not looking too bad.
it was a pleasant surprise.